USE PATIENCE TO MANAGE ANGER
D. Charles Williams, Ph.D.
you wonder why violence is so
prevalent today? It has become common place to immediately show our annoyance or vent our
anger when unfairly treated. Our indignation becomes a justification
for mistreating others with abuse or exclusion. As victims, we become
makes you angry? How do you react? Do you: 1)ignore, avoid and
eventually resent? 2)react angrily and retaliate? or 3)constructively
face the offense?
latter choice is the healthiest yet the most challenging. How can we
consistently respond in this manner? Anger management experts suggest a
more patient approach:
a deep breath and exhale
slowly. 2.Mentally step away
from the situation momentarily. 3.Think
before reacting emotionally. 4.Give the benefit
of the doubt. 5.Objectively
describe the behavior you saw without blaming the person. 6.Ask about their intent. 7.Tell them how you were affected.
8.Patiently but firmly negotiate
a win-win solution. 9.Treat them the way you want to be
you have a short fuse, bury your feelings or take things too personally,
you may be emotionally and medically at risk. Get some coaching or
counsel on how to constructively channel your anger. It will be time and
effort well spent.
Dr. D. Charles Williams