Culture of clutter:
Healthy Living
Collecting stuff -- for good or ill
By SANDRA ECKSTEIN
Atlanta Journal-Constitution Staff Writer
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It's just so easy to have
too much stuff.
Think about it. In
centuries past, most people couldn't even read. That meant no books, magazines,
junk mail or newspapers piling up on the kitchen counter. Homes didn't need
closets because most people could fit every piece of clothing they owned in a
small trunk.
There were no machines, so
we didn't need CDs, cassettes, videos, DVDs or game cartridges filling cabinets
and shelves. If you ate a meal, you grabbed your one plate, utensil and cup and
used it, then cleaned it and put it away.
And most of our forefathers
collected little besides firewood. Who had time while eking out a living? But
all that's different now.
"We live in a more
cluttered world," said Dr. Jerrold Pollak, a Portsmouth, N.H.,
psychologist with an interest in obsessive/compulsive behavior including
excessive shopping, collecting and hoarding. "We get more mail, we get
more magazines, we have the opportunity to buy more things. One hundred years
ago, you couldn't have bought 200 pairs of shoes if you wanted to. Now you can
get that many in an afternoon."
Three mind-sets
Of course, some of us are
better at keeping a handle on all this "stuff" than others. Pollak
identifies three types of people who usually end up with too much stuff:
· The collector,
someone who goes out and actively seeks new things.
· The
clutterer, someone who just seems to have a hard time throwing away what comes
into the home.
· The hoarder,
someone who refuses to throw away almost anything, even trash.
While collecting is
considered healthy unless it becomes an obsession, and clutter isn't
necessarily a problem unless it's extreme, hoarders almost always need
psychological help, Pollak said. And of course, people can fall into more than
one category.
So why do we keep so much
stuff? David Schlenoff, a Baltimore, MD, psychologist with an interest in hobbies
and collecting, said he believes the urge is primal.
"People used to be
hunters and gatherers, so we were ingrained with that behavior -- it's
hardwired into us," Schlenoff said.
And having stuff makes us
happy.
"It makes us
emotionally comfortable to have things. It makes us feel secure and safe,"
said Dr. Marsha Sauls, a psychologist who practices in Dunwoody.
Patricia Cahill, an English
professor at Emory University who has taught a class on collecting thinks most
people collect something, even if they say they don't.
"When I ask students
at the beginning of the class if they collect anything, many say they
don't," Cahill said. "But by the end of the class, most say they
do."
That's because many people
don't think owning 400 CDs or a refrigerator magnet from every trip they've
ever taken as collecting, but it is.
"I had a student say
she kept Smirnoff Vodka ads because she thought they were cool, but she never
thought of it as a collection until after she took my class," Cahill said.
Another big difference
between collectors and clutterers is that collectors often keep their
"stuff" much neater and more organized then clutterers.
"Collectors try to
create a little world they can order because the real world is so
chaotic," Cahill said.
Glenn Harley Sr. has
certainly managed to order his world. Hartley and his wife, Mildred, are both
avid collectors. In fact, they collected so many things that the collections
overran their Chamblee home years ago.
So the couple built three
display and storage buildings in their yard. One houses Glenn's collection of
fire memorabilia, while another showcases Mildred's dolls and doll houses. The
third is for storage.
"Our kids call it the
Hartley compound, like the Kennedy compound," laughs Glenn, who just
turned 70.
Glenn Hartley collects fire
memorabilia and calls his display area "Smokey's Fire Museum" (after
Smokey, his first Dalmatian.) His display area houses hundreds of books, toy
fire trucks, badges, helmets, nozzles, stuffed toys and other fire-related items.
Hartley said he loves the
thrill of finding new things, as well as learning new information and meeting
new friends. Sauls said that is very common.
"For many collectors,
the thrill is in the hunt, in finding the coveted item. Once they own it, it's
not as important. The acquisition is the high," Sauls said.
A natural cycle
The urge to collect often
begins in childhood, with kids defining what is theirs and what belongs to
others by preschool, Pollack said.
And children can quickly
become refined collectors, just like adults.
"Many children begin
collections, like baseball card collections, and then upgrade them, aspiring to
better, rarer, items," said Dr. John Lion, a psychiatrist in Baltimore,
MD.
Schlenoff said collectors
often fit into a cycle, choosing an item to collect, buying more of their
collectible as they age and money becomes more available, then slacking off as
they get older and have less space and energy. A number of collectors will
eventually sell or give away the collections they spent decades acquiring. He
said people in their 70s and 80s are especially likely to dispose of large
collections.
While some collectors
simply sell off or pass their collections on to family members, others may
donate them to museums, historical societies or other public institutions.
"A good deal of
material is donated to museums," said Lynne Spriggs, curator of
folk art at the High Museum of Art. "It's critical to collections."
But while museums might
covet a fine collection of paintings or bronzes, it's doubtful they'd want the
piles of rubber bands, sheaves of used aluminum foil and bags of twist ties
many people, especially the elderly, collect.
Doctors say there are a
number of reasons for the hoarding of such common-place items. Dr. Don Hughey,
a local psychologist in private practice who teaches at Argosy University, a
school in Dunwoody, said many elderly fear running out of things.
"People who were
raised during the Great Depression have a great fear of deprivation and poverty
and of not having enough," Hughey said.
Other times the clutter is
a result of depression.
"The elderly,
especially if they are alone, can be depressed," Hughey said. "They
may not have the energy to clean house."
And sometimes the elderly
simply keep many items because of sentimental value.
"What looks like an
old piece of junk to you could have a good memory attached for someone else,
which makes it a treasured item, " Hughey said.
That's why it's so
important to be gentle when helping people clean out a home.
"You may think that's
a ratty old chair, but it may have been the chair their spouse always sat in
and they want it."
Maintaining control
The easiest way to dig out
from a mess is to never let it get out of hand in the first place. But saying
that is like locking the barn door after the horse escaped for many people. So
Pollak offered the following tips on controlling clutter and collections.
· Throw out old
papers, magazines and mail if you haven't read them within a reasonable period
of time. You probably never will.
· If your collection
is out of hand, vow to remove at least one item for every new item you buy.
Replace two cheaper items with one better item.
· Know how much
space you have in your house and don't exceed it. Don't buy a dining room table
that seats 12 for the breakfast nook, even if it's a great buy.
Sauls said people need to
realize that collecting and clutter become unhealthy when it interferes with
life.
"Some people will
forego food or rent to feed their hobbies," Sauls said. If you have
boxes everywhere and you walk through tiny aisles, it's a problem. Then your
stuff is taking more prominence than your own, personal living environment.
Mental health is a balance."
OBSESSION -- OR HEALTHY
HOBBY?
Collecting, says Dr. John
Lion, a Baltimore psychiatrist, is healthy.
"It's a way to reach
out beyond ourselves to other worlds, other cultures, other lives," Lion
said. "But it can become unhealthy if it takes up too much of your
life."
How can you tell if your
collecting is becoming an obsession or an addiction?
· If you spend
more money than you can comfortably afford.
· If your
collection takes up so much room in your home that it intrudes on your living
areas.
· If you ignore
your family, friends or job because you'd rather work on your hobby.
"Collections can become
a substitute for living," said Dr. Jerrold Pollak, a Portsmouth, N.H.,
psychologist.
Clutterers usually start
out as messy people, doctors say, but clutter can blossom into a problem.
Clutterers often share similar issues:
· They don't
really want all the stuff littering their homes.
· They are
afraid of making a bad decision.
· They will
throw away items if others help them.
Hoarders, on the other
hand, will rarely throw anything away. Even garbage. Pollak said hoarders
usually have trouble making decisions and facing reality. Doctors say hoarders
almost always need psychological help.
"They'll fight you to
the end if you try to make them clean up," Pollak said. "They get
very upset and depressed if you try to get rid of anything. It's very anxiety-producing
for them."
Of course, collectors or
clutterers also may cross the line. A person who earns $20,000 a year and
spends $5,000 of it on a collection may have a problem, while someone earning
$100,000 a year and spending the same amount may not.
And if a person has a large
house and uses several rooms to store junk, that's probably fine. But if their
house is small and the junk takes up needed living space, they probably have a
problem, Pollak said.